The Connexion Process: A Great Way To Explore Your Inner Landscape

 What is community connectedness?

Community connectedness is the measure of our sense of community – that is, how connected we feel to those around us. Whether it's with a group of friends, a hobby group, a sporting team, our neighbours or an online community, a sense of belonging is what humans require.

Broadly defined, “social connectedness” (also referred to as “social connection”) is a state of feeling close (or “connected”) to another person or other people. This includes feeling cared about by others (and caring about others), as well as a feeling of belonging to a group or community.

Human beings are ‘social animals’. Our relationships with others contribute to feeling good, so it’s important to socially connect with others where we can. Developing healthy social relationships can increase our feelings of happiness, security, belonging and self-worth. Creating bonds with family and friends allows us to feel secure.

Sharing positive experiences give us a chance to help and support others, which can be personally rewarding. It also gives us a chance to receive emotional support from others.

Most of us want to have meaningful connections with other people but in order to do so, we should work on feeling at home in our own selves.

Here is a powerful esoteric process that helps you restore from a state of separation to a state of connection with yourself and others.

Performing The Connection Process

1. Choose a place with no distractions and sit down in front of a mirror. Sit close to it so that you can easily see the reflection in your own eyes but you are able to focus on your eyes and see your whole face. This is about the same distance as if you were sitting cross legged in front of someone. You can choose to do this process with clothes on or if you are really willing to be vulnerable, without clothes.

 

2. Close your eyes and begin to imagine or sense or feel that the image in the mirror on the opposite side of you is actually another you. Like a twin or a 3-D duplicate of yourself. Feel yourself opening up to this other person.

3. Look at the person in the mirror directly in the eyes. Focus deeply into the pupil of the eye. It is ok if you choose to focus on one specific eye or you can relax your gaze to look at both. 

Begin to enter the person in the mirror through the pupil of their eyes as if sinking into a black hole. Begin to venture into their inner world. If this does not work well, alternatively, you can soften your gaze to their heart area and do the same thing. 

Remember that the journey will begin to come to you in your mind’s eye as impressions in your mind and in your emotions empathically and in your body somatically.

 

Focus on using your consciousness to penetrate deeper and deeper into the person in the mirror, like a being that is exploring a foreign planet. Curiosity and non-judgment are crucial. 

You may choose (depending on what you feel that you need the most) to either let yourself match the frequency of whatever landscape you find yourself in or to project love and appreciation into whatever landscape you find yourself in. 

For example, if you reach a landscape of sadness within the person, let yourself fully feel that sadness and become that sadness so as to understand it completely as opposed to projecting love into that doom or conversely, you can simply project love into that sadness.  

4. As you move deeper and deeper, you may choose to stop to explore and interact with any of the walls or landscapes that you encounter.

5. If you feel intuitively called to do so, you may convey any messages mentally, emotionally, energetically or verbally to the person in the mirror. These messages will be inspired by the interactions and experiences you have in each landscape and with each wall. 

Remember, any messages that you feel intuitively called to give to the person in the mirror can be spoken in the mind or they can be spoken out loud. For example, if you run into fear within the person in the mirror, you may be inspired to say out loud to them “I know you are scared because you feel unsafe”.

6. When you encounter a wall within the person in the mirror, your aim is to learn that what breaks down walls the very best is awareness. You need to know why the wall is there. What is it trying to prevent? Why has it chosen this feeling or appearance? Let your intuition speak to you and hand you insights about each wall that you encounter. 

Subconscious walls cannot withstand consciousness. They usually begin the dissolve once you are conscious of them and from it and to meet its needs so that it will willingly open for you. The thing their purpose. You can then reassure the wall that it is OK to let you in and express your intentions for journeying deeper. Then imagine, sense or feel it dissolving in the way it needs to be dissolved.

 Remember that you will experience the walls within the person in the mirror being broken by you, as self abuse and so these walls should not be broken unless the wall directly asks for that. Instead, it should be loved and its needs should be met. If a wall absolutely does not want to come down, we need to honor that fact and allow it to be there instead of force our way in.  

7. As you move through the landscapes within the person in the mirror, the best way to get through them deeper and deeper is to melt through them. You will melt and allow melting by completely being willing to experience whatever sensations, feelings or sights you see.

 

For example, if you experience anger, surrender to the experience of anger and settle into the anger without resisting it at all. If fear comes up, be present with the fear, like you are keeping it company and are open to feeling it completely, even letting it consume you.

 If you have an experience, like encountering a monster, let yourself fully engage with that monster as opposed to running from it. Your question to yourself should be “How can I allow this experience I am having or engage with it instead of merely observing it even more?” Keep breathing as you welcome the experience. If you feel resistance, you simply breathe while you remain completely unconditionally present with the feelings of resistance that you are feeling. 

Do not be alarmed if you experience severe visual distortions and feeling states during this exercise. It may at times feel like you are hallucinating. This is all normal so remember to allow it completely.

 

8. See and feel and hear the person in the mirror completely. You want to know them completely. As fears come up, let them be there, let them occupy the space between you and the mirror, as if you are both cradling that fear between you.

 

 9. Be present with the journey until you feel that you have reached a spot where you intuitively feel a sense of completion for the particular session. There is no magic time line and there is no time limit when it comes to The Connection Process. Often, this happens when we have gone all the way through the person in the mirror’s layers back to their Source essence. 

Make sure that you do not stop or retreat until you have reached and explored the positive feeling layers that exist beneath the negative feeling layers. For example, say you are in a layer of anger or hatred, remain fully and completely with that layer within the person and stay with it as you sink down into the layer of innocence that is underneath it and spend time there, in that positive feeling layer before you bring the journeying to a close. 

You may carry barriers and beliefs that people cannot truly connect with you or will abandon you because of your darker layers, and so withdrawing from these layers will energetically re-traumatize you.

You may have noticed that I referred to the person in the mirror as “the person in the mirror” instead of yourself. I referred to your reflection as another person because we have so many judgments and projections and illusions about ourselves that if most of us approach this process as if the person in the mirror is ourselves, we will not see ourselves as clearly.

 We also tend to be much more critical, unloving, rejecting, self-abusive and in denial when we do not externalize the person in the mirror in this way. In turn externalizing the person in the mirror makes the process much easier. Simply know that any-thing you see within the inner world of the person in the mirror is actually inside you. 

Any messages you shared, is a message for yourself. You are actually exploring your own walls and landscapes. You are seeing the truth of yourself.

When people do The Connection Process on themselves in the mirror, they often feel much less lonely and much less anxious. The reason for this is that you are allowing your own presence to touch your internal world. 

We are doing this when our attention is focused inward as well, but we have a limited capacity for introspection and internally oriented presence. For this reason, giving our internal world presence in this externalized way is especially profound. 

Having this connection with our own internal world makes us much less afraid of going into other people’s internal worlds as well as other people coming into our internal world.

References: The Connection Process: A Spiritual Technique to Master the Art of Relationships By Teal Swan

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